Yesterday was a happy day. My business partner for the past 7 years Ming proposed to his girlfriend Patty. It brought back memories of the day I decided to propose to Shorty 3 years ago.
I was really nervous when I proposed to Shorty. I don’t really know why… because I was sure she would say yes. Otherwise she wouldn’t have wasted 3 years of her life with me. I guess I was nervous because it was truly one of the biggest decisions I had to make in my life. Marrying “The One”.
This pressure though stems from society or pop-culture’s expectation that we all have “ONE” person that we are meant to be with in our lives. I disagree though. I don’t believe that there is just ONE person for everybody. I believe there are a few (or more). So it’s not about finding “The One”. It’s about finding a person that makes you happy and can make you want to live your life with.
If you realize this then making that one decision becomes a lot easier.
Shorty and I have been married for 2 years now… but together as a couple for 5. I don’t think that I’m the only person in the world that could make her happy. I think there are more than a few guys out there who could treat her as well as I do and make her as happy as she is right now. The thing is I guess we found each other at the right time… and she feels good enough to want to live life with me.
I talk about the “right time” a lot. That’s because I think while there is more than one suitable person for us out there to live our lives with, I think we could all meet them at different times of our lives. Sometimes we could meet them too early, sometimes much later… and the one you marry is the one you end up meeting at the right time. The time when you feel you’re ready to make the commitment and settle down to start a family.
I used to say that I met Shorty too early. That I hadn’t had enough girlfriends before her… but now I’m just glad I met her at all. We can’t control when the opportunities come… we can however make the decision to seize it when it does.
I saw my opportunity in the form of a short but noisy package… and I seized it. Now I’m happily married. 🙂
Timothy Tiah – Co-Founder of Colony, Kuala Lumpur Co-Working Space